That good old metaphorical horse, eh? Well I’m back on it in terms of travelling and exploring after about a year and a half of trying to shoe-horn myself back into a ‘normal’ life.
Everyone is different and everyone is on their own journey. Even if you don’t understand or agree with someone else’s path, it’s their business and their decision. I have been guilty of trying to change someone else’s plans, and have also been on the receiving end of this.
But I’ve learned so much and the bottom line is – always do what is ultimately going to make you happy and improve your own journey, and likewise, just accept others for who they are.
Now I’m not talking about being selfish or being unkind to others to aid your own ambitions, but rather being true to yourself and who you prefer to be. For example, do you work in a job that you dislike because the money is good and your family have become accustomed to a certain standard of living? Are you still friends with someone you’ve known since school but when you meet up they only ever make you feel bad about yourself? Do you want to take up a new hobby but are embarrassed about what other people might think?
My Own Experience
I love travelling, exploring, packing, and planning my next trip. I love the excitement of not knowing where I’ll be in the next few months. I love being able to move location whenever I want.
I love all these things because they make me feel free. But for some people, these are scary as hell, and that sort of uncertainty isn’t something they care to invite into their lives.
But we’re all different and all on our own journey. We have to accept each other for who we are.
So after what feels like a lifetime, I’m back to solo-travel. It’s bittersweet because ultimately it’s the lifestyle I want (the travel, not the ‘solo’!), but after having someone to share things with for the past few years, it’s quite sad being by myself again.
However – and this is what I meant earlier – we have to do what ultimately makes us happy. Trying to hide who we really are, or suppress something that we really want, will eventually lead to unhappiness anyway.
I started (or rather re-started!) my journey with a little mini-break to Tetbury and Glastonbury. Four days of nature, walking, luxury accommodation, good food and wine, and some writing have put me back on track.
Yes I was a little sad I was back to dining alone (“Is it just a table for 1 madam?” *sigh*) but that’s a small price to pay for doing the things I love. Over the past few days I’ve driven nearly 300 miles, walked almost that far but not quite (well, it felt like it anyway), drank plenty of delicious coffee, eaten some pretty good cake, met some nice people, taken a whole bunch of decent photos, and cemented my view of who I prefer to be.
So it’s onwards and upwards now. Live in the moment, make conscious choices, and be happy!